The Choice

When you think about making decisions, what comes up for you?

Improving your decision making skills requires more than rationally thinking through pros and cons and tying it to a bigger purpose.

Although that is a useful process. We are less rational than we like to think.

Emotions are always at play.

Do you feel excited to choose or overwhelmed?

Do you protect yourself from the fear of getting it wrong by saying you don’t have a choice to begin with?

This is totally natural. And more people than not, live in this realm.

Without a growing sense of confidence that we can handle whatever comes from the choice, we relegate that power to someone or something else.

The irony is that we still end up having to deal with whatever comes, we just feel less empowered and more frustrated because we gave up our autonomy by believing we didn’t have a choice.

Everyday I invite others (and myself) to question the idea that we don’t have a choice.

You actually don’t have to cook dinner.

You don’t have to show up on time.

You don’t have to brush your teeth.

But you may WANT to do these things, and if so, what energy and mindset do you want to bring the task?

Example:

I have to pick my kid up from school. Everyone would agree. However… I could let him wait. I could ask another parent to help. I could move him to a school with a bus… there are lots of options.

But I actually like my choice to pick him up. And in this moment of reflection, I get to choose the energy I bring to the task.

I want to let him know how thrilled I am to have him in my life. I want to create a calm and welcoming space, a safe haven from the chaos of middle school.

This mind exercise puts power back in my hands.

So remember, You always have a choice. Even if it is simply choosing the way you think and feel about a task.

Developing the practice of loving your choices and improving complex decision making is a skillset that will transform your life and wellness.

Sitting in resentment and disempowerment drains your energy day in and day out.

There’s a better way. Book a discovery to begin developing the mental fitness that creates more joy and ease.

Today I’m in Atlanta speaking to the Association of Fundraising Professionals Lead conference. Here’s a little intro video to the topic:

Whether your a fundraiser, organizational leader, or social entrepreneur – Navigating the complexity of emotions will enable you feel better & achieve more.

October is my travel month… next stop Baltimore. Join me at the Lideramos Nation Symposium

We’re leading a workshop: From Scarcity to Confidence: A Funding Workshop for Latino Nonprofit Leaders. Money mindset, nervous system blocks, owning our value… we’re discussing it all. And unlocking an empowered way to fund the programs that are transforming individuals into empowered leaders.

I can’t wait.

As always, I love hearing from you. Hit reply and tell me what’s on your mind?

What goals would you love to see yourself accomplish by the end of the year? Anything is possible. I’ll be your cheerleader.