Scared of the “wrong” decision

We’ve all been there – Weighing the pros and cons. Seeking trusted advice. Running the scenarios through our mind. Wondering which decision we’ll regret.

It feels heavy and anxiety inducing. Sleepless nights. Waking up too early, spinning our our mind.

One of my clients called the situation, facing the big “D”, as in Decision and she didn’t want to get it wrong.

We’ve all been there.

But here’s the truth about big decisions – rarely are complex decisions as binary as “Right” and “Wrong”.

In fact, when you enter decisions with rigid, black and white thinking it causes anxiety and fear.

Worrying about making the wrong choice cuts yourselves off from your autonomy to continue to direct and create the life you want no matter the decision.

Thinking you have to get it right, you hand over all our power into this one anxiety filled decision. And then your brain, in fear of regret, goes looking for ways the decision isn’t lining up with your expectations. You start cherrypicking the evidence that maybe it was wrong, or at least not perfect.

You spent energy worrying that maybe the other option would have made you happier or worked out better.

This is a lie. Those thoughts drain you and block you from creative problem solving, enjoying life, and taking powerful action to create change.

There are no perfect decisions. Just decisions that we choose to make with our autonomy fully enacted, willing to learn and grow no matter what.

As I told my client, “Whether you decide to do this thing or not, you will still have your thoughts, your emotions, and your ability to create what you desire. Your mind may want to tell you that the other option was better when you meet challenges down the road, but you actually will never know what challenges the other option would have brought. You just have yourself and the way you choose to engage and overcome whatever you face”.

When you release the pressure of getting it “right” your emotions and mental capacity expands. (Seriously, the brain science backs this).

You see things more clearly with a vast amount of possibility.

From a generous perspective you can actually bring JOY into your big decisions.

You begin to build self trust and confidence, which reduces the negative energy spent on decisions. You have more of yourself to be the effective leader you want to be.

You end up actually making better decisions. (i.e. become a more effective leader).

Imagine for a moment, cutting worry and anxiety out of your decision making process.

How much more time and energy would you have in your life?
(Can you even track the amount of time you spend over thinking instead of being present?)

What would that mean for your health and happiness?
(Less sleepless nights and more open hearted conversations)

This is the potential return on investment in coaching support. As a thought partner, I help you unattach from the fear and think more expansively about whatever you are facing. You feel better & lead better.

I know what I’m proposing is counter to what you may be feeling. You may be thinking, “But Sonya, there really ARE right and wrong decisions”.

I totally get that embodied response. Our brain wants to remind us that, good decisions have kept us safe and alive. Bad decisions have left us hurt, embarrassed, and sad.

But I’ve studied human potential and the neuroscience of change and I am certain that by releasing the FEAR of making the wrong decision and amplifying your personal power, you will end up happier and more successful no matter what you choose.

You’ve got this!!

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