The hard thing you need to hear

Hello Beautiful Human –
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​It has come to my attention and I simply must tell you these important words…

Please stop being mean to yourself.

I am gonna assume that as a change agent subscribed to my newsletter you believe (at least theoretically) in the power of nonviolence.

But really how kind is your inner dialogue?

• Do you punish yourself by playing and replaying conversations in your head picking yourself apart?
• Do you tell yourself you should have known better when you make mistakes?
• Do you discount your work and assume someone else could do it better?

You probably don’t consider this violence and yet it offers no nurturing value that enables your growth.

The phrase “harm begets harm, and healing begets healing” is a process that happens within us as well.

Even still, it can feel like a whole new uncomfortable process to extend real compassion towards yourselves.

There are all sorts of reasons for this. IPNB (Interpersonal neurobiology) can explain why… maybe it’s helpful for you to unpack or maybe not.

But as someone who cares about the health and wellbeing of others, you are allowed to include yourself in that wellbeing.

There is a difference between taking responsibility as a leader and punishing yourself for not measuring up to an imagined standard that you haven’t even investigated.

Taking healthy responsibility can leave you feeling proud of yourself for courageously leading. Open to growth and learning.

Punishing yourself mentally leaves you in fear and self-doubt. Future decisions take longer, you avoid doing the brave thing and leadership feels exhausting.

So hear me when I say, please please stop beating up yourself.

Most likely whatever your brain is criticizing you about, it’s not that bad. And a little self compassion can bring you to a place where growth and learning are possible.

A lot of self compassion can liberate you to live boldly, pursuing your dream with clarity and energy.

I want to invite you to take your inner dialog seriously. It is the thing that gives you energy or drains you of your power.

That is in part, why I created this new group program.

I’d love for you to join Wired for Joy & Empowerment where we self compassion is practiced, witnessed, and enables incredible impact.

We’re starting May 14th, sign up by May 1st and receive a bonus 1:1 coaching session.

This leadership learning circle is where imagined expectations get reframed in a way that inspires your greatness instead of fuels your self criticism.

Let your value of nonviolence extend to yourself and invest in the practice.

​Apply now. Drop any questions you have in the application and I’ll be in touch.

Open Now!

I hope these words land like a soothing balm. You have permission to be kind to yourself. I’ll see you inside WJE.