The Disconnect

Do you ever feel like, “I know what I should do, but I can’t seem to make it happen”?

There’s no shortage of ‘shoulds’, recommendations and tips for professional and personal development. I’ll admit my weekly newsletter as one of them.

The desire to grow and evolve is profoundly human. And yet action and follow through is the hardest part.

It’s the disconnect between what I desire in my head, and what I do in my actions.

I’ve always had a deep desire to gain “all the knowledge” on “getting better” – podcasts, self-help books, classes, you name it. You’re reading this email so I’m guessing you have a bit of that in you, as well.

But knowing what to do doesn’t always mean doing and I was slowly compiling fuel for my inner critic.

My curiosity took on the form of a loud bully in my head.

“Why can’t I just DO the thing <insert whatever recommendation of the day>?”

Are you being a bully to yourself when struggling to do the things that you should do?

Addressing the Disconnect between desire & action:

Step #1 – Have a kind, sit down conversation with your inner critic.

Instead of reaching for more control & punishment of that inner bully, let’s take a more restorative approach of curiosity and understanding.

A kind conversation with ourselves can reveal the deeper motivation and inspiration for the action we want to take.

You are not alone if you have never or rarely engage in a self-compassionate conversation.

For most of us that inner critic is so familiar; it is woven into our embodied nervous system. We feel it’s demands, shame and fear subconsciously before we are even aware it has taken control.

I help individuals invite the scared inner bully to let go of the steering wheel and take the back seat.

When the bully is no longer in control, a stronger connection between what you desire to do and the empowered action is possible.

An important truth: Love is more powerful than fear when pursuing change.

Through experiential coaching conversations you can move that head knowledge of what you want to do into an empowered embodied transformation.

Every. Single. Time. my clients make this shift to care for their body and personal needs, work, relationships, life, … everything feels easier.